Healthy Relationships
Sharing Feelings
You feel safe and strong enough to tell your partner how you really feel.
Communicating
You respect and listen to each other even when you have differing opinions on a topic.
Disagreements
You can have disagreements and still talk respectfully to each other. You resolve your disagreements.
Intimacy and Sex
Both of you can be honest about your feelings about physical affection and sex. Neither of you feel pressured to do anything you do not want to do.
Trust
You trust each other. You are comfortable with your partner spending time with other people.
Time Alone
You can each spend time alone and consider this a healthy part of your relationship.
Violence
You and your partner take care to not speak harsh words or make mean comments. There is no physical violence in your relationship.
Unhealthy Relationships
Sharing Feelings
You feel awkward telling your partner how you really feel.
Communicating
Your partner ignores you and does not respect your opinions when there is a difference of opinion.
Disagreements
Your disagreements often turn into fights.
Intimacy and Sex
You feel embarrassed to say how you feel because you think your partner may not listen or care. You “go along” with some things.
Trust
Your partner feels jealous when you talk to other people. You feel jealous when your partner talks to other people.
Time Alone
You think there may be something wrong if you want to do things without your partner. Your partner tires to keep you to them self.
Violence
There have been a few incidents of emotional abuse or controlling behaviour in your relationship. There is no pattern of abuse or violence.
Abusive Relationships
Sharing Feelings
You are afraid to tell your partner how you really feel because you fear getting put down or threatened.
Communicating
Your partner treats you with disrespect and ignores or makes fun if your ideas and feelings.
Disagreements
You are afraid to disagree because you do not want to unleash your partner’s anger and violence. The disagreement is an excuse for abuse.
Intimacy and Sex
Your partner ignores your needs and wants. Your partner pushes you into situations that make you uncomfortable, frighten or degrade you.
Trust
Your partner accuses you of flirting or having an affair, and orders you not to talk to others.
Time Alone
Your partner does not allow you to spend time doing things on your own. Your partner sees this as a challenge or threat to your relationship.
Violence
There is a pattern of increasing, ongoing abuse in your relationship: emotional, physical, sexual and/or intimidation.
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